read this from a mag - Cosmopolitan
how true.. i tot some of the replies are rather.. ahem.. sweet?!
Q1] What's your most common argument with gfs?
R1 - Money - when she spends mine!
R2 - We argue abt things I do - or rather dont do - like watching TV instead of doing the washing.
Q2] Who gets blamed for arguments?
R1 - Me, I'll accept blame for an easy life. (this is what my guy should be like!)
R2 - I like to flip the blame back on to her, so even if I'm wrong I'm always right. I'll try to make her think it's her fault. (-_-||| GUYS!)
Q3] What's your arguing style?
R1 - It's like a game of tennis. Women hit it to you and you bat it back.
R2 - I tend to let things build up, so when i do finally say something, it all comes out.
R3 - I make my pt, then make myself busy and leave her to think abt it. (fair enough)
Q4] Have you ever refused to back down, even when she's right?
R1 - I dont see the advantage of that. Life's much easier if you back down.
R2 - If it's you who made the mistake, what's the pt in not backing down? If you know you're wrong, it's not fair.
R3 - There's no pleasure in deliberately winding her up - and yo'll pay for it.
(EXACTLY!)
Q5] What annoys you most abt the way women argue? (sadly.. i'm into all...)
R1 - Girls always think they're right.
R2 - They make you feel really small.
R3 - I once broke up with a girl because she argued abt everything.
'R4 - I sometimes cant rem whether what she's complaining abt actually happened or if she's just making it up.
Q6] How do you feel when women cry during an argument? (uber sweetness of the guys!)
R1 - Awful.
R2 - Guilty as hell.
R3 - It just feels wrong.
R4 - When a woman cries during an argument, you just want to give them a cuddle. But we shouldnt be telling you this - we're giving you ammo!
Q7] And what about when women swear?
R1 - It shows they're passionate, especialy if they dont usually swear.
R2 - If they're frustrated enough to resort to swearing, you know you're in trouble.
Q8] What arguing style annoys you the most?
R1 - When they dont listen to anything you say. That really frustrates me.
R2 - When they send you on a guilt trip for something you didnt do on purpose.
Q9] Have you ever threatened to dump a girl and not meant it?
R1 - I once said, 'If you dont lie it, just leave,' - but I was praying she wouldnt' It was just a last resort to try to win the argument!
Q10] Do you ever involve other people in your arguments?
R1 - I'd rather keep the argument between us. It's not anything to do with other people.
R2 - You cant win.
Q11] Do you think arguing can be good for a relationship?
R1 - Once we've had an argument, things are better than they were before because we understand each other better.
R2 - An argument is just a discussion about things that mean something to you both.
Q12] Whats the difference between a row with your friends and a row with your gf?
R1 - You can say exactly what you think to your mates and make up over a pint the next day. But if you fall out with your gf, you might never get back on track.
Q13] Would you get into an argument if someone had upset your gf? (i wish this is the case too...)
R1 - Definitely - if somebody upsets her, they upset me. I'd defend her, even if she was in the wrong.
R2 - When you're arguing together, you know how far you'll both go. But when some stranger starts yelling at her, you donk know what they might do next.
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Find out (how to win those man rows...)
1. Men tend to be solution-oriented. Present your argument as a problem and he's more likely to resolve the issue.
2. Choose your moment - and avoid alcohol if you're planning on bringing up a serious issue.
3. Dont project the issue in your relationship on to him by thinking, 'If he did what i want, our relationship will be really good.'
4. Not saying anything when you're furious is just being passive-aggressive - and he'll generally be able to tell.
5. There's a big difference between assertion and aggression. If you're shouting, your message is being lost.
6. If you're both struggling to listen, set a timer for five mins at a time, and dont interrupt while the other person's talking.
7. Consider your audience. Think abt the way he's likely to hear what you're saying.
8. Dont use blame to win arguments; Say, 'When this happened, it made me feel...',not, 'It's your fault...'
9. Whatever the outcome of your argument, see it as progress!
